So, the lovely Kaelah has nominated me for a Liebster award!! For those of you who don’t know what this is, here are the rules!!
The Rules: When one receives the award, one posts 11 random facts about oneself and answers the 11 questions asked by the person who nominated you. Pass the award onto 11 other blogs. One writes up 11 NEW questions directed towards YOUR nominees. One is not allowed to nominate the blog who nominated ones own blog! One pastes the award picture into ones blog.
It sounds like fun, but I am going to miss out the step of nominating 11 other blogs, mainly because most of the blogs I would nominate are already involved! But if you want to take part, feel free to drop me a comment and I’ll get you those 11 questions!
Lets start with 11 random facts about myself
1. Since I turned 20, I’ve not lived in the same place for more than 2 years.
2. I have 3 wonderful cats who I wouldn’t be without, even if they pin me to the bed every night and complain when I have to get up in the morning.
3. I am a huge tea lover, and I have a whole drawer of different types of teas in my kitchen.
4. The calender in my office is still on October, because I keep forgetting I have a calender in my office.
5. As a young child I was very girly, then went through a phase of being a bit of a tomboy. I’m coming through that now and discovering a new love of everything pink and girly!
6. The last thing I do each night, and the first thing I do each morning is check twitter.
7. If I am alone, I cannot sleep in complete silence. I listen to audio books to help me get off to sleep. If i’m sharing a bed with someone else it becomes less of a problem – sleeping people have a soporific effect on me!
8. I love my kindle, and am currently reading a book called Little Fuzzies, which despite the name, is not a kids book!
9. It’s date night for me and R tonight, and I’m cooking macaroni cheese and garlic bread.
10. I’m obviously not that interesting because I can’t think of anything else to say!
11. Tea forever!!!
And now onto the questions that Kaelah has set me!
1. What was one of your first kinky fantasies which you can remember?
Strangely, my first kinky fantasies all seemed to revolve around watersports – peeing on other people, and being peed on myself. It’s something I’m still interested in now, but to a much lesser degree!
2. What makes you happy about blogging?
Being able to share my thoughts with the world, and on some level, being able to de-mystify the sort of extreme bdsm shoots I’ve been involved in. It’s all very well doing little interviews at the end of shoots saying that the models have enjoyed what happened, but if it’s expected, it seems a little hollow. Sharing my experiences in my own voice in my own channels I think helps to show that I got into this sort of thing willingly, and take genuine enjoyment from it.
3. Did blogging ever made you sad? If yes, why?
There’s been a couple of times it has made me sad. One of those times was announcing when The Boss and I split up, and the other time was going through and hiding a whole load of posts because someone very close to me was being threatened with being outed as kinky. Though, I guess in both of those situations the blogging just re-inforced the sadness I already felt.
4. Please describe one of your happiest kinky moments.
This would definiately be when I did a successful breast suspension in a Shadowslaves movie. I was only off the floor for a few seconds, but it was something I’d dreamed about doing for about 7 years.
5. What do you like about the kinky community?
I like the feeling of knowing there are others out there who understand. That there are people who I can turn to for help and advice, and even just to talk things through that might not make sense in my head just yet.
6. Are there things you don’t like about the kinky community?
Yes! Definitely. There can be a lot of feelings in the community that if someone does something differently to you, they must be doing it wrong. The worst cases of this I’ve seen have been in discussions about heavy play and heavy marking – I’ve seen accusations of mental illness and drug taking against those who do like to play very heavily, not from “vanilla outsiders”, but from people within the community.
7. Please describe the most memorable development that you made in your kink (for example, meeting fellow kinksters for the very first time or becoming open for a new kind of play).
My most memorable development, I think was definiately my first ever shoot. Exhibitionism is a big part of what drives me, and it’s been exploring that which has lead me to do cam shows and launch my website.
8. Are there crucial elements in your kinky play?
For me, at the moment, the crucial element seems to be a degree of reciprocity. I like to be able to dish out pain, knowing I’ll get pain back in response, or recieve pain, knowing I can inflict pain back. Other than that, the cane is pretty crucial to me!
9. Do you have any pet peeves when it comes to spanking storylines or videos?
I hate the “insert submissive here” type of spanking movies. The ones where there’s no real personality shown from either side, and no interesting storyline.
10. Is there any kinky fantasy that you haven’t played out (yet) for fear that the real experience won’t be able to match the appeal of the fantasy?
Yes. For most of my kinky life I’ve been fascinated bykidnap and long term interrogation scenes. But I don’t know if I would be able to handle the reality of them, either physically or mentally.
11. Please describe one of your spanking (real life or story) fantasies in 11 or fewer words.
Teasing girl gets spanking as revenge.